Normally it is considered that the children are less experienced and therefore they should be generally guided by their parents and/or teachers. The advice, discipline and control must be in the hands of the parents and the teachers, because amongst their well-wishers, they are placed the highest & they are in a position to identify their inclinations, attitudes and monitor their progress. But it appears that the children want to have their activities as per the advice of their friends or as per their own wish. Parents may generally frame a tentative time schedule for their children but in many cases, they are unable to enforce it. The children may not complete the homework till they are coaxed late in the night. With lot of difficulty they are able to rush for the school bus for going to the school on week days. Sometimes they may even be late in reaching the school bus in the morning hours. They are usually awake late in the nights watching TV shows, movies & get up very late in the mornings esp. on the week-ends. Their breakfast time on the week-ends may be around 10-11 AM and thus all schedules get disturbed. But the children may not realize this in time.
Some parents may want their young child to attend classes for learning some hobby, music, some indoor or outdoor games & sports etc. The child may not want to go to any or some of these classes. But the parents might have already paid the fees & they may be in a dilemma. Perforce they force the child to go the class, drop him there as well as collect him from there on the days of the class. Sometimes the children may even create a scene in front of the teacher also.
Friends are after all friends. In the teen age level, they may even mislead the children just for fun, without bad intentions, or even with bad intentions. There are some persons, who depend on their friends, for their important decisions in life. It is felt that the views about any matter will also not be same with all friends. In such situations it will be difficult to take a decision. Hence views of the friends may be taken note of and considered along with the views of the parents, teachers & others & final decision should be taken considering all relevant points. Sometimes the children do not inform the parents properly about the problems faced, do not consult them and do not apprise them of the reasons of their decisions. Sometimes they get into confusion and do not take decisions in time, leading to anxiety and tension both for themselves and the parents. Last minute decisions are not always the best, as they appear to have been taken in hurry under duress, so as to respond within the deadlines given for this purpose. If two or three experienced and concerned persons put their heads together, carry out proper analysis, the resultant solution of the problem will definitely be better.
All children are not equal in talents, qualities, mannerisms, the financial condition of their parents, relationships in the family etc. If there is physical harassment, fighting, beating, biased treatment of the children in the same family, bullying in the class, lack of discipline, things are not going to be in order. These sometimes may make the student, not attend the school. The teachers should lay stress on development of the children individually, also giving stress on relationships with teachers & between the children themselves. Students should be able to discuss with their teachers, without fear, any of their problems for their solutions. It is a fact that all parents love their children very much, but making their overall life better, by making use of their experience, is also their responsibility.
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