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Consideration of the talents and views of children in their early life


It is a fact that some young children are born with some exceptional memories, qualities and traits right from their birth onwards. In some cases, the child remembers the happenings of his earlier life, places where he had lived and/or visited, special qualities which he possessed in his earlier life and some of which he may be possessing even now. Such qualities are generally observed in the initial stages of the life of the children and if their parents, teachers and other well-wishers have the time and the inclination to observe and follow up, the same may get developed exceptionally well, in those children. The onus in such cases is on the parents and teachers to identify, highlight such talents and give them encouragement, motivation and prominence to build further on the initial foundation received at the time of the birth. Thus it is accepted that there are some such cases, and that we must promote the observed talents suitably. However, their percentage is not very high.
But there is another matter. Can we say that a child knows about everything authentically, at that young age? Asking the children and to say that we must accept what they say for everything, appears to be a bit too far-fetched. If and when we may ask them about their choices and opinion for everything, it is possible that they may just give their views without any basis. It is like someone asking me about something which I do not know. Even then normally I may say something. Then questions like this may also arise. Even if a child wants or likes a thing which we consider as harmful or hazardous for him, should we give him. If he likes a thing too much and after eating a substantial quantity already, he wants still more, should we discourage him? Further since as a parent, we may know that the child likes a particular item, should we give it to him on our own? Should we as a parent not utilize our knowledge and experience about adverse effects of some items and condition our child accordingly and ensure his safety. Should we take that our child knows everything and we know nothing. Does it not amount to putting lot of stress on the young child? The duty of the parent is to guide the child properly, with his knowledge and experience and the inclinations of the child as observed and get them changed, if necessary, especially when the conditions are harmful and/or hazardous. It is felt that all this should be done in the overall interest of the child, and not considered in an isolated manner.